Proverbs 17:17 says, “A friend loves at all times, and a brother is born for a time of adversity.” Many friendships are born during good times, but adversity reveals true friendship. Difficult times often take relationships to a new level. There have been a few tough times I’ve experienced that I can’t imagine enduring without great friends who chose to be the hands and feet of Christ.

When I see someone in trouble, I remember five ways I can be a friend in difficult times:

1. Pray

When I hear a friend is dealing with something difficult, my first response is to pray for them and their situation. Hebrews 4:16 says, “Let us then approach God’s throne of grace with confidence, so that we may receive mercy and find grace to help us in our time of need.” Pray that God will reveal His purpose and He will be glorified.

2. Reach out quickly

It’s always helpful to write a note of encouragement, but in today’s fast-paced world, you can connect quickly with a hurting friend through text, email, or a phone call. Let them know you are praying for them. Ask if there is anything else you can do. They may not always respond immediately, but these small gestures can be very meaningful.

3. Meet a need

If you ask someone if you can do something for them, they may respond with a specific request. If you are able to meet their need, it’s your opportunity to turn your offer to help into action.

If your friend doesn’t communicate a specific need, there are still ways you can help. You can provide meals, babysit, run errands, or help with house or yard work. Sometimes you may need to involve others. All of these simple actions provide tangible expressions of care for someone facing a difficult time.

4. Be present

You may fear reaching out to someone during a difficult time because you don’t know how to respond. You may think, “I just don’t know what to say. I’m not a counselor, so how could I help?” Often, just being there is more than enough. Remember, actions speak louder than words.

5. Follow up

Finally, keep praying and occasionally check in with your friend. An outpouring of support often comes at the beginning of a trial, but in the following months, people often forget the one in need. The mark of true friendship is to continue to help carry a friend’s burden as time marches on.

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